Re: #NeverAgain

I didn’t realize it was Kyle that had died that summer, saving his little sister from drowning – 15 years ago, this June. Walking into the lunchroom, not seeing him with a deck of Yu-Gi-Oh cards in front of him, I asked, “Where’s Kyle?”

Immediately, faces crinkled, tears began to flow, and the sober words, “It was him,” caused the nausea to hit me. The Courier Article had been put up in the JROTC case, but, like most of the students on those wooden hallways, I walked right by, blissfully unaware. Instantly, I knew why I had missed the memo – I didn’t see his picture, that day, I had only heard the monotone reporting from the other room, oblivious to the lives of my friends being ripped apart before the days of Facebook.

C.K. was his best friend; they were in the middle of their Eagle Scout project – he shows up the next day, ready to work and… that’s not my story to tell. The necrophilia-based fiction, humor and drama, prose and poetic, mundane and musical, just sort of… happened. There was no real way to process it, so we… not ‘trivialized’ it. Distanced ourselves. Observed clinically. Copy of a copy of a copy. His ex was one of my best friends – between her and C.K., I can tell you, heroic or not, losing someone your age when you’re a kid is fucked up.

Personally, I wasn’t even that close to Kyle, I was just one of the group at the lunch table. Sure, I was in JROTC, too, which we found out pretty quick on Friday, when the whole Corps was required to wear their Class ‘B’s, but that wasn’t how we knew each other. We were the weirdo eclectic kids – anime geeks, theatre/ choir/ band nerds; that was our bond.

Still, that’s the age where, barring a serious personality disorder, you buy it all hook, line, and sinker. He wanted to go into the Air Force to become a hero. Literally, saved his little sister’s life and became a hero before he could be expected to pay rent – can you imagine how he’d feel if he ended up piloting drones, instead? That wasn’t Kyle – Kyle was the Billy Joel song you’re thinking of right now.

Now, I’m seeing kids on TV grieving after seeing classmates die with their own two eyes – not even a hint of a willing sacrifice, no blissful buffer, just senseless slaughter with no warning. Those kids are going to develop a very, very dark sense of humor. Let them. Humor is much more healing than repressing feelings. They are going to feel very, very intense emotions – don’t drug the shit out of them, just because they have to be to school at 6 am because they’re in Band.

It just now occurred to me, the one Conspiracy Theory kid might not have been a bad actor doing multiple takes, he might just be out of his gourd on Gods-Know-What to do this freaking media tour. Or else it’s Operation Northwoods all over again. I digress.

It’s time to stop forcing kids to be perfect, to fear failure, to pretend they’re happy when they’re obviously not – they’re feeling that same feeling: something is not right, here. Only, instead of listening, we ignore them until the only way they can be heard is by shooting up a Church or a School.

It’s been two years since Columbine, and today, many people – especially some parents of the murdered children – still believe the worst school massacre in American history might have been averted if the Sheriff’s Department and school authorities had done their jobs.

60 Minutes has been investigating the shootings at Columbine for the past six months, and has found new and surprising information about what happened there. Some of that information was in the Sheriff’s files – undisclosed – until CBS News went to court to have it released. And some of it comes from two former security officials at the school district who say that eight months before the shootings, they developed a plan that they say might have prevent the killings, a plan that they say the school all but ignored.

This is happening AGAIN:

Suspected school shooter Nikolas Cruz became known to authorities in the fall of 2017 when he posted a comment on YouTube that was reported to the FBI: “I’m gonna be a professional school shooter.”

At a news conference Thursday morning, special FBI agent-in-charge of Miami-Dade Rob Lasky said that the agency had received the report of the comment from a video blogger in Mississippi in September. The comment was made under the name “Nikolas Cruz,” and yet the bureau said it was unable to establish a firm identity.

Now, I don’t mean to sound callous, but the FBI/ Police ignoring reports of weapons brandishing on top of weapons stockpiling doesn’t sound like they were very concerned with stopping an inevitable slaughter.

…and THAT is why I don’t believe they’ll change ANYTHING with the coming proposed legislation. 17 YEARS of Hindsight is Disgusting. They HAD the tools to identify this man as a threat, and they NEGLECTED to act. Why? WHY?!! What’s the point of all that blood you just WATCHED spill, when you know good and Goddamned well how to stop it?

What NEW law would have made the FBI spring into action? Making it a felony to sit back without preventing a bloodbath when that is literally your JOB.

Conduct professional investigations and authorized intelligence collection to identify and counter the threat posed by domestic and international terrorists and their supporters within the United States, and to pursue extraterritorial criminal investigations to bring the perpetrators of terrorist acts to justice. In furtherance of this function, the FBI designs, develops, and implements counterterrorism initiatives which enhance the FBI’s ability to minimize the terrorist threat.
FBI Website

Well, it was identified, and then what? Then, their faces crinkled, and that damned wailing began… and the ones who LET it happen are saying WE need more restrictions? WE are bad people for not handing over our guns? WE need to let THEM take MORE of our privacy?!

YOU CAN ALREADY SEE ALL THE NUDES ON MY PHONE – EAT A BAG OF DICKS.

If it wasn’t outright malice, it was grave incompetency which requires external investigation. I want answers. I want this to ACTUALLY stop, not just be a cool Facebook filter with the intention to neglect duties further down the line after the lip service ceremonies. #NeverAgain

 

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How I Won the Internet in 2017

Once Upon A Time, around December 28th, 2017, I made a comment about an opinion I had about a meme that claimed to show men being objectified during the Olympics, and only having it be called out about women. As a gf who has no financial means, nor physical desire, to undergo any sort of hormonal or surgical change, I go through the world as a cishet-appearing vanilla-looking female, and I’ve noticed a few things, with this limited white-girl perspective.

So, when I mention how sexual attention differs in consequence (specifically in the cult of celebrity, as we are talking about The Olympics, ffs), I get a comment to which I reply, “Okay -” and so forth. The reply comment has since been deleted, obviously, and not by me.

As I do with most minor dramas, I quickly move on with my life… until this morning.

Checking the FB Notifications, it tells me the Cheezburger thread had a few comments since the last time I replied… what could I do? I decided to win the internet and show you how it happened:

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Just for reference, this Michael Jackson Popcorn GIF was the first Female Comment, besides mine, so far… there are a few more, just thought you might like to know the ratio.

Carry on.

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It’s almost here, I promise… the Conclusion!!

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…think I didn’t. 😉

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

An Open Letter to Angry, Sex-Fearing Feminists

*gently pats the seat beside her*

Come on in, get comfy – we’re gonna have a little chat.

No, that was not sarcasm. Come back. This is a good thing.

Recently, I read an article entitled ‘Whether you like it or not, pole dancing perpetuates sexism’ on Feminist Current. FakeFeminist, in order to fallistically silence through mockery any sort of rebuttal which didn’t recoil in horror at the mere mention of the possibility of causing arousal to another person, apparently made a bingo card of all the most common responses – pairing actual conversation starters with shallow insults, thereby ruining any sort of credibility by-association.

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When “but it helped me heal” is a point of laughter/ disgrace, it’s time for a talking-to.

  1. Yes, skimpy clothing is required – sticking to the pole with your FUCKING FLESH is required in competitions (last I checked – I could be ill-informed). Being drunk helps – not only does it dull the pain of putting your entire body weight on the back of your knees/ inside of your thighs/ arm, the alcohol comes out in your sweat, making you even stickier, but that’s work, not Russia (I assume, but I’m Eurocentric, and all I know is drinking makes me warm; I digress). Dancers who wear stockings as a part of their aesthetic know the difference between Fishnet and Fencenet, because it might keep you from cracking your head open, one day.

Want to see Professional Gymnastics in Not-America? Watch this video, and tell me again how illegitimate of a sport pole dancing is still (by the way, there is a male category).

2. I’m already done with this; I’m not here to dissect… much.

I’m here to give an alternate perspective, maybe find some middle-ground.  look at the bottom of the column, again. Eye for an eye.

You know what causes Rape? LACK OF CONSENT.

Period.

When you try to take control of someone else’s arousal without their permission, what would you call that?

If someone uses their arousal as an excuse to violate you without your permission (because, let’s be honest, if people didn’t like being violated in a large enough group, ‘Safewords’ would not be a thing involved in what grown adults do to pass the time and invest thousands of dollars and hours into each year; I digress), what would you call that?

Yes, Feminists, Institutional Sexism, like Institutional Racism, is real:

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Brock Turner and his Presiding Judge, the Red-Eye Nipple Pincher, Sexual Abuse in the Military – we have to quit treating sexual assault like an “oops”, specifically when it comes to white males. (By the way, white is a culture which currently holds institutional power, beige is one of a myriad of skin colors.) If someone steals a wallet or leaves a bruise, there is ‘proof’; when the assailant admits wrongdoing and begs to avoid punishment (which successfully happens), the person who was violated is put in a very awkward situation – “sorry, your tits and peace of mind are less valuable than the contents of a Leather Pouch”.

According to a poll by the Veteran’s Health Administration, at least One in Five Females in the Military admitted being victims of sexual abuse during their time of service. Now, the key word in that statement is ‘admitted’. In 2013, it was estimated that 60 – 65% of all sexual assaults go unreported. This means, adjusting for a trend of under-reporting of cases, that number is closer to One in Three.

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Now, did I say anything, men who came here to hate just because the words ‘Angry’ and ‘Feminists’ were in the title of an article which doesn’t eviscerate the Movement, about sexual assaults only ever happening to women? Nope. This is a very interesting infographic from the Seattle Post, all the way back in 2004.

Look at the bottom left-hand bar of the above bar graph. In the Military, a group predominantly known for being anti-LGBT for years and years, using slurs specifically for this group in order to degrade as a part of mental training, women are STILL 4 TIMES as scared of their reputation being ruined than men, even though men are ten percent more likely to suffer feelings of shame, embarrassment, and self-blame.

In other words, even though more men feel guilty than women when they are assaulted, they still know they face little consequences to their day-to-day and career life because of it.

Many might not even consider such a possibility, certain anthropologists believing women are more likely to be sensitive to group dynamics as part of a survival mechanism ingrained in their biological makeup (which is why men are less likely to understand why you’re mad that bitch was nice to you – it’s called a ‘Backhanded Compliment’, look it up!!).

It would, though, wouldn’t it? Make you seem weak, like an easy target – “Successfully Raped.” It’s something I’ve been dealing with, in the wake of several molestations and a few penetrations, one of which may have been drugged, since I’ve never had a blackout or a hangover that badly in my life, that I can recall, and I’ve drunk a half a handle of UV Blue to myself once…

Ended puking on the toilet while singing ‘Dresden Dolls’, after which I stripped down of my own accord and got in the bathtub, so I’d feel better – yes, this is something I do when I’m drunk and feel safe.

Was alone with two men, was treated respectfully (was checked on to make sure I didn’t drown without incident, if you can believe it) and put to bed to sleep it off. They made it a point to be polite and as non-sexual as possible, even though I was not related to them.

I was lucky to be around who I was around, that night, and not someone else.

That’s the point of this article, I guess: Personal Responsibility.

Brock Turner does NOT represent the men who are maligned with false rape accusations from spiteful women who don’t understand the pain and suffering of an actual sexual assault victim, he represents only himself and his personal actions.

Brock Turner being sentenced lightly will not help the number of fathers whose children are in abusive environments, due to the state siding with their mothers arbitrarily, get them out of that situation any faster, protect four-year-olds from being pulled up by the neck with a belt and their 9-year-old sister from revealing on the origin of the bruises casually at dinner.

It is one thing to take into context the demographics of the victim/ perp and be aware of injustices upheld by those who hold positions of authority in conflict of interest (Blind Trust, anyone?), it is a completely different thing to successfully find out what it is about that person we can ban to make the threat of such a crime non-existent. I vote ‘ignorance’.

Oh, and, to quote Joss Whedon, “Looking at linoleum makes me want to have sex.” Please stop taking erections personally, they aren’t actually trouser snakes. If you can’t, then please consider learning self-defense, a la Bobby Hill, and make sure you use it appropriately, unlike Bobby Hill.

Until next time, Keep your Mind and Eyes Open!!

Adam Names Things, so He Can Sh*t on Them

18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” 19 Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him.

21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. 22 The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.

23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones,
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”

24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

-Book of Genesis

I’ve noticed quite the – frankly, boring – trend of looking at someone’s opinion, branding/ labeling them something, then going off on that label’s stereotype.

For example, I do not identify as a Feminist. I believe in Gender Equality because I, personally, identify as Gender Fluid. I acknowledge Rape Culture exists and is just as valid as male victims of domestic violence. Not only should women be paid equally as men for the same amount of work across the board, men should be given a fair chance in child custody cases – that’s REAL Gender Equality, and I think, no matter who I am or who people THINK I am, I should be treated the same as the CEO and the Janitor – no better, no worse. In a perfect world, I also wouldn’t be a hypocrite. I digress.

I can’t tell you HOW many people say I’m a Feminist for calling someone out for being sexist, then launching into issues that affect men as if that NEGATED women’s issues altogether – like you can’t get your period and diarrhea at the same time. Newsflash, Gentlemen – the refried beans can – and often do – come with Rojo Enchilada Sauce.

Why Some People Are Worried About the Executive Order

It is now currently legal in California for a “temporary” gun seizure order to be executed at your family’s discretion.

Families don’t fucking get along. They gossip about the black sheep. This is McCarthyism at its best.

This, of course, is not the recent event on everyone’s lips.

Now, keeping in mind how legislation works, how HIPPA might be exploited by future presidents, most likely a Republican WILL be elected to office eventually, that’s just how things go (we switch parties every so often), how are we calling for more mental health diagnoses while simultaneously decrying mental health care recipients as unfit for gun ownership?

If I go through the mental health care system and DON’T come out the other side fit to own a gun as a fully-functioning American Adult, I have a problem with that form of mental health care.

Most prescription medications, including psychiatric meds, are in clinical trials a month, tops, and NEVER in combination with another medication – yet millions of Americans have been on a cocktail of these drugs for YEARS.

Need I say more?

 

 

You know why Tamir Rice is dead?: A Self-Important White Chick’s Perspective

Someone has to fucking say it, might as well be me.

The caller said Tamir had what appeared to be a toy gun – he saw a child who needed someone to have a very serious discussion with them, but he was also kind of scared that might have been a real gun, and didn’t want to take any chances.

Dispatch either neglected to inform the responders of, or the responders ignored, the ‘toy’ part of the information given initially.

Without any hesitation, Loehmann shot young Tamir Rice because he allegedly believed that he was pointing the gun at him and his partner. Loehmann shot in spite of the person who dialed 9-1-1 telling them twice that the gun was “probably fake.” After they killed him, police inspected the gun to discover that it was an air soft pellet-gun, which is basically a toy.

The tragic incident was captured on surveillance video.

Responders respond, assessing the situation as one best handled A) without engaging the suspected gunman in conversation, and B) without giving medical treatment as soon as the suspect is down.

Juvenile female claiming to be sister, hysterical, pinned to ground while brother bleeds to death without said medical treatment, because that was what was safest for everyone in that moment…

Maybe it’s just me, but what the fuck would be the point of this decision? “Watch your little brother bleed to death, and remember to stay the fuck in line”? Did no one hear anything she was saying, or did they not care? She didn’t need assistance, she needed restraining. The boy didn’t need assistance, he needed to die.

…can’t imagine any other reason why that would have happened.

Suicidal white teen huddling in trash can ‘siced’ on by dog as part of the K9’s training exercises, implicating text messages affirm.

Here’s another:

Cop catches mother stealing eggs, has a food drive and delivers perishables to her home. And again, something similar.

Here’s another:

Border patrol agent kidnapped, raped, and sliced open the arms of a mother and her daughter – mother ran while agent was assaulting her daughter, to get help FROM OTHER AGENTS, who promptly busted in mid-stroke on that dude, and he gets up to off himself. The Mother and Daughter were taken to a hospital to care for their injuries.

What do all of these incidents have in common?

The person who perpetrated these acts had either extreme or no empathy for the person with whom they were dealing. We have both mob mentality/ community outreach and lone wolves/ individual Samaritans, once again indicating pretty much anything is neutral, it’s the intention behind the action/ usage of an object/ idea.

People HAVE prejudices – they have prejudices because ‘their brains’ and ‘survival’. I would like to think we have evolved past the need to rely on this, but I digress – I might actually be a generation ahead, due to how young my Gma/ Mother were when they had children. I digress and apologize, that was elitist of me to infer older generations are inferior in any way without recognizing the ways in which they are obviously superior… I was born about 200 – 300 years too late, myself.

Prejudices can be based on a number of different factors, and people from various backgrounds can be prejudiced against different things on a sliding spectrum of acceptance and rejection, which both can be advantageous to the prejudiced person (i.e.: choosing to apply to serve tables at a restaurants with higher clientele) and also not (refusing to let Viola become a manager and continually sexually harassing all the women, because it’s 1970-something and they can always just QUIT if they don’t like ‘playing with the big boys’… meaning the big boys play while the laundry lasses slave away in the washroom now known as ‘the cubicle with typewriter’. If you’re unaware, this is the plot of a movie-turned-musical starring Dolly Parton, Lily Tomlin, and Jane Fonda. The Tomlin/ Fonda wage issue is a whole ‘nother blog.

Awareness of prejudice may result in conscious choice of de-escalatory/ nurturing behavior, the old ‘honey than vinegar’ primal psychology. Is someone more likely to surrender to someone who has a gun drawn to them? Is someone more likely to shoot an armed man approaching them with or without weapon drawn?

What if his sister was standing with him when the cops pulled up? Would they both have been shot? Would they have assumed the girl was a hostage? What ways do prejudice inform your choices in how to talk to/ treat/ favor/ discredit people? Murder? Rape? Extortion? Theft? Sodomy? Thinking adulterous thoughts? At what point can you condemn another person to “whatever terrible fate may await them” without a second thought? Holding a gun-like object in public? A group of grown men killing a child, conspiring to sic a dog on one?

Let’s be reasonable – those people who committed what, by civilian standards, would be considered assault on another person, have names and should be held accountable – that’s the main issue here. “With great Power comes great responsibility”.

You know why the Ten Commandments are there to ‘keep us from going to hell’… what do you THINK are the consequences of Murder, Adultery, in the real world?

Fucking Vendettas. Possessively-justifiable violence.

“An eye for an eye“, or the law of retaliation, is the principle that a person who has injured another person is to be penalized to a similar degree, or in softer interpretations, the victim receives the [estimated] value of the injury in compensation.[1]

The principle is sometimes referred using the Latin term lex talionis or the law of talion. The English word talion (from the Latin talio [2]) means a retaliation authorized by law, in which the punishment corresponds in kind and degree to the injury.

“You killed my child.”

“You maimed my child.”

“You shot my child in the head because you were scared she would encourage women to get an education.”

I don’t think there should be equality. I think there should be Justice. We shouldn’t knock everyone down and pander to the lowest-common denominator, that does no one any good.

If I’m on a rope-pulling team, and it’s legal to do so in the rope-pulling rules, I want the fucking sweaty-palmed dude to wear gloves, I want us ALL to wear gloves, even though it will help some people significantly more than others. Conversely, if you CAN’T abide gloves, I don’t see the point in forcing someone to wear them when they’re already calloused up fine from YEARS of training, and adding a new element is going to throw them off completely?

I digress into allegory a lot.

The point is, BLM, The War on Terror, is it any WONDER it took dogs getting capped by some poor bastard who’s shoved onto frontlines until they have PTSD and who’s taught to anticipate instead of approach a situation with love and courage – what I have, firsthand, seen the ‘good ones’ do. Are there lost causes? YES, there certainly are people whose brains incline them towards psychopathic, non-empathetic behaviors. There are some who have this non-empathy, and use it, instead, to become proficient surgeons and make a whole bunch of money to keep themselves entertained based on the fact they’re allowed to carve people up “if they do it right”.

It takes all kinds – it’s being able to control your behavior which makes you a danger to society… or not. Law Enforcement’s main concern, in any community, ought to be Public Safety – that’s why they’re regularly seen patrolling at public events, when there are large crowds of people, like Parades and Festivals, in case little kids get lost and need to find and adult and shit. Public Service is not for everyone, nor should it be – it should be Elitist and it ought to strive for Excellence in Safety, Honor, Integrity, Vigilance… but I guess that’s my little fantasy world of Super People. I know how quick a stripper goes from bright and bubbly to disgusted and detached, I can only imagine what policework would do to the human soul.

Making a hard decision in the moment isn’t the same as PREMEDITATED action… knowing someone has a gun and choosing to shoot them and let them bleed out instead of communicating how to de-escalate the situation with the perp, your cohorts, or, not to mention, immediately responding to the injured party once the weapon was discovered to be a toy, that’s not excusable in any sense of the word. If you know you’re going to SHOOT immediately, call an ambulance right away, to be on the scene right after. If you’re going to hurt someone, make sure they make it to court.

“That’s what you get,” isn’t Justice; that’s callousness, that’s Color of Law, that’s deplorable, that’s criminal, and the fact of it being Criminal and involving victims IS worth being taken seriously in a Court of Law, regardless.

Then again, just like Ryan White, the further away someone is from a tragedy of social consciousness, the more willing they seem to help. I can’t speak for the cops or the victim’s families, I can only speak as an outsider watching this all unfold and trying to respond with as much empathy as possible.

What If CSPAN was, like, Reality Goverment Shows?

…yeah! And really, really, REALLY charismatic leaders, like Obama and Putin and Trudeau… they’re the stars!! They’re also in-shape, unlike Ted Kennedy, who only WISHES he had JFK’s (or, heck, even half of Bobby’s) chiseled features.

Where was I? Oh yeah!

We follow candidates around ‘behind the scenes’, with a live feed of the House/ Senate in a PIP on CSPAN 1 and 2 (following, of course, the two main candidates of each of the Two Parties, whom not voting for is ‘throwing your vote away’), which is easily expandable by switching over to CSPAN 3 or 4, which is also available on mobile phone.

…yeah.