Re: #NeverAgain

I didn’t realize it was Kyle that had died that summer, saving his little sister from drowning – 15 years ago, this June. Walking into the lunchroom, not seeing him with a deck of Yu-Gi-Oh cards in front of him, I asked, “Where’s Kyle?”

Immediately, faces crinkled, tears began to flow, and the sober words, “It was him,” caused the nausea to hit me. The Courier Article had been put up in the JROTC case, but, like most of the students on those wooden hallways, I walked right by, blissfully unaware. Instantly, I knew why I had missed the memo – I didn’t see his picture, that day, I had only heard the monotone reporting from the other room, oblivious to the lives of my friends being ripped apart before the days of Facebook.

C.K. was his best friend; they were in the middle of their Eagle Scout project – he shows up the next day, ready to work and… that’s not my story to tell. The necrophilia-based fiction, humor and drama, prose and poetic, mundane and musical, just sort of… happened. There was no real way to process it, so we… not ‘trivialized’ it. Distanced ourselves. Observed clinically. Copy of a copy of a copy. His ex was one of my best friends – between her and C.K., I can tell you, heroic or not, losing someone your age when you’re a kid is fucked up.

Personally, I wasn’t even that close to Kyle, I was just one of the group at the lunch table. Sure, I was in JROTC, too, which we found out pretty quick on Friday, when the whole Corps was required to wear their Class ‘B’s, but that wasn’t how we knew each other. We were the weirdo eclectic kids – anime geeks, theatre/ choir/ band nerds; that was our bond.

Still, that’s the age where, barring a serious personality disorder, you buy it all hook, line, and sinker. He wanted to go into the Air Force to become a hero. Literally, saved his little sister’s life and became a hero before he could be expected to pay rent – can you imagine how he’d feel if he ended up piloting drones, instead? That wasn’t Kyle – Kyle was the Billy Joel song you’re thinking of right now.

Now, I’m seeing kids on TV grieving after seeing classmates die with their own two eyes – not even a hint of a willing sacrifice, no blissful buffer, just senseless slaughter with no warning. Those kids are going to develop a very, very dark sense of humor. Let them. Humor is much more healing than repressing feelings. They are going to feel very, very intense emotions – don’t drug the shit out of them, just because they have to be to school at 6 am because they’re in Band.

It just now occurred to me, the one Conspiracy Theory kid might not have been a bad actor doing multiple takes, he might just be out of his gourd on Gods-Know-What to do this freaking media tour. Or else it’s Operation Northwoods all over again. I digress.

It’s time to stop forcing kids to be perfect, to fear failure, to pretend they’re happy when they’re obviously not – they’re feeling that same feeling: something is not right, here. Only, instead of listening, we ignore them until the only way they can be heard is by shooting up a Church or a School.

It’s been two years since Columbine, and today, many people – especially some parents of the murdered children – still believe the worst school massacre in American history might have been averted if the Sheriff’s Department and school authorities had done their jobs.

60 Minutes has been investigating the shootings at Columbine for the past six months, and has found new and surprising information about what happened there. Some of that information was in the Sheriff’s files – undisclosed – until CBS News went to court to have it released. And some of it comes from two former security officials at the school district who say that eight months before the shootings, they developed a plan that they say might have prevent the killings, a plan that they say the school all but ignored.

This is happening AGAIN:

Suspected school shooter Nikolas Cruz became known to authorities in the fall of 2017 when he posted a comment on YouTube that was reported to the FBI: “I’m gonna be a professional school shooter.”

At a news conference Thursday morning, special FBI agent-in-charge of Miami-Dade Rob Lasky said that the agency had received the report of the comment from a video blogger in Mississippi in September. The comment was made under the name “Nikolas Cruz,” and yet the bureau said it was unable to establish a firm identity.

Now, I don’t mean to sound callous, but the FBI/ Police ignoring reports of weapons brandishing on top of weapons stockpiling doesn’t sound like they were very concerned with stopping an inevitable slaughter.

…and THAT is why I don’t believe they’ll change ANYTHING with the coming proposed legislation. 17 YEARS of Hindsight is Disgusting. They HAD the tools to identify this man as a threat, and they NEGLECTED to act. Why? WHY?!! What’s the point of all that blood you just WATCHED spill, when you know good and Goddamned well how to stop it?

What NEW law would have made the FBI spring into action? Making it a felony to sit back without preventing a bloodbath when that is literally your JOB.

Conduct professional investigations and authorized intelligence collection to identify and counter the threat posed by domestic and international terrorists and their supporters within the United States, and to pursue extraterritorial criminal investigations to bring the perpetrators of terrorist acts to justice. In furtherance of this function, the FBI designs, develops, and implements counterterrorism initiatives which enhance the FBI’s ability to minimize the terrorist threat.
FBI Website

Well, it was identified, and then what? Then, their faces crinkled, and that damned wailing began… and the ones who LET it happen are saying WE need more restrictions? WE are bad people for not handing over our guns? WE need to let THEM take MORE of our privacy?!


If it wasn’t outright malice, it was grave incompetency which requires external investigation. I want answers. I want this to ACTUALLY stop, not just be a cool Facebook filter with the intention to neglect duties further down the line after the lip service ceremonies. #NeverAgain



An Open Letter to Angry, Sex-Fearing Feminists

*gently pats the seat beside her*

Come on in, get comfy – we’re gonna have a little chat.

No, that was not sarcasm. Come back. This is a good thing.

Recently, I read an article entitled ‘Whether you like it or not, pole dancing perpetuates sexism’ on Feminist Current. FakeFeminist, in order to fallistically silence through mockery any sort of rebuttal which didn’t recoil in horror at the mere mention of the possibility of causing arousal to another person, apparently made a bingo card of all the most common responses – pairing actual conversation starters with shallow insults, thereby ruining any sort of credibility by-association.


When “but it helped me heal” is a point of laughter/ disgrace, it’s time for a talking-to.

  1. Yes, skimpy clothing is required – sticking to the pole with your FUCKING FLESH is required in competitions (last I checked – I could be ill-informed). Being drunk helps – not only does it dull the pain of putting your entire body weight on the back of your knees/ inside of your thighs/ arm, the alcohol comes out in your sweat, making you even stickier, but that’s work, not Russia (I assume, but I’m Eurocentric, and all I know is drinking makes me warm; I digress). Dancers who wear stockings as a part of their aesthetic know the difference between Fishnet and Fencenet, because it might keep you from cracking your head open, one day.

Want to see Professional Gymnastics in Not-America? Watch this video, and tell me again how illegitimate of a sport pole dancing is still (by the way, there is a male category).

2. I’m already done with this; I’m not here to dissect… much.

I’m here to give an alternate perspective, maybe find some middle-ground.  look at the bottom of the column, again. Eye for an eye.

You know what causes Rape? LACK OF CONSENT.


When you try to take control of someone else’s arousal without their permission, what would you call that?

If someone uses their arousal as an excuse to violate you without your permission (because, let’s be honest, if people didn’t like being violated in a large enough group, ‘Safewords’ would not be a thing involved in what grown adults do to pass the time and invest thousands of dollars and hours into each year; I digress), what would you call that?

Yes, Feminists, Institutional Sexism, like Institutional Racism, is real:


Brock Turner and his Presiding Judge, the Red-Eye Nipple Pincher, Sexual Abuse in the Military – we have to quit treating sexual assault like an “oops”, specifically when it comes to white males. (By the way, white is a culture which currently holds institutional power, beige is one of a myriad of skin colors.) If someone steals a wallet or leaves a bruise, there is ‘proof’; when the assailant admits wrongdoing and begs to avoid punishment (which successfully happens), the person who was violated is put in a very awkward situation – “sorry, your tits and peace of mind are less valuable than the contents of a Leather Pouch”.

According to a poll by the Veteran’s Health Administration, at least One in Five Females in the Military admitted being victims of sexual abuse during their time of service. Now, the key word in that statement is ‘admitted’. In 2013, it was estimated that 60 – 65% of all sexual assaults go unreported. This means, adjusting for a trend of under-reporting of cases, that number is closer to One in Three.


Now, did I say anything, men who came here to hate just because the words ‘Angry’ and ‘Feminists’ were in the title of an article which doesn’t eviscerate the Movement, about sexual assaults only ever happening to women? Nope. This is a very interesting infographic from the Seattle Post, all the way back in 2004.

Look at the bottom left-hand bar of the above bar graph. In the Military, a group predominantly known for being anti-LGBT for years and years, using slurs specifically for this group in order to degrade as a part of mental training, women are STILL 4 TIMES as scared of their reputation being ruined than men, even though men are ten percent more likely to suffer feelings of shame, embarrassment, and self-blame.

In other words, even though more men feel guilty than women when they are assaulted, they still know they face little consequences to their day-to-day and career life because of it.

Many might not even consider such a possibility, certain anthropologists believing women are more likely to be sensitive to group dynamics as part of a survival mechanism ingrained in their biological makeup (which is why men are less likely to understand why you’re mad that bitch was nice to you – it’s called a ‘Backhanded Compliment’, look it up!!).

It would, though, wouldn’t it? Make you seem weak, like an easy target – “Successfully Raped.” It’s something I’ve been dealing with, in the wake of several molestations and a few penetrations, one of which may have been drugged, since I’ve never had a blackout or a hangover that badly in my life, that I can recall, and I’ve drunk a half a handle of UV Blue to myself once…

Ended puking on the toilet while singing ‘Dresden Dolls’, after which I stripped down of my own accord and got in the bathtub, so I’d feel better – yes, this is something I do when I’m drunk and feel safe.

Was alone with two men, was treated respectfully (was checked on to make sure I didn’t drown without incident, if you can believe it) and put to bed to sleep it off. They made it a point to be polite and as non-sexual as possible, even though I was not related to them.

I was lucky to be around who I was around, that night, and not someone else.

That’s the point of this article, I guess: Personal Responsibility.

Brock Turner does NOT represent the men who are maligned with false rape accusations from spiteful women who don’t understand the pain and suffering of an actual sexual assault victim, he represents only himself and his personal actions.

Brock Turner being sentenced lightly will not help the number of fathers whose children are in abusive environments, due to the state siding with their mothers arbitrarily, get them out of that situation any faster, protect four-year-olds from being pulled up by the neck with a belt and their 9-year-old sister from revealing on the origin of the bruises casually at dinner.

It is one thing to take into context the demographics of the victim/ perp and be aware of injustices upheld by those who hold positions of authority in conflict of interest (Blind Trust, anyone?), it is a completely different thing to successfully find out what it is about that person we can ban to make the threat of such a crime non-existent. I vote ‘ignorance’.

Oh, and, to quote Joss Whedon, “Looking at linoleum makes me want to have sex.” Please stop taking erections personally, they aren’t actually trouser snakes. If you can’t, then please consider learning self-defense, a la Bobby Hill, and make sure you use it appropriately, unlike Bobby Hill.

Until next time, Keep your Mind and Eyes Open!!

Why Some People Are Worried About the Executive Order

It is now currently legal in California for a “temporary” gun seizure order to be executed at your family’s discretion.

Families don’t fucking get along. They gossip about the black sheep. This is McCarthyism at its best.

This, of course, is not the recent event on everyone’s lips.

Now, keeping in mind how legislation works, how HIPPA might be exploited by future presidents, most likely a Republican WILL be elected to office eventually, that’s just how things go (we switch parties every so often), how are we calling for more mental health diagnoses while simultaneously decrying mental health care recipients as unfit for gun ownership?

If I go through the mental health care system and DON’T come out the other side fit to own a gun as a fully-functioning American Adult, I have a problem with that form of mental health care.

Most prescription medications, including psychiatric meds, are in clinical trials a month, tops, and NEVER in combination with another medication – yet millions of Americans have been on a cocktail of these drugs for YEARS.

Need I say more?



They Don’t Give a F*CK About Anyone’s Kids

They conducted the following air strikes/naval attacks:

  • The CIA released a whooping cough virus on Tampa Bay using boats, and so caused a whooping cough epidemic. 12 people died.
  • The Navy sprayed San Francisco with bacterial pathogens and in consequence many citizens developed pneumonia.
  • Upon Savannah, GA and Avon Park, FL, the army released millions of mosquitoes in the hopes they would spread yellow fever and dengue fever. The swarm left Americans struggling with fevers, typhoid, respiratory problems, and the worst, stillborn children.

Even worse was that after the swarm, the Army came in disguised as public health workers. Their secret intention the entire time they were giving aid to the victims was to study and chart-out the long term effects of all the illnesses the public was suffering.

–‘The 13 Most Evil U.S. Government Experiments on Humans‘, Robert Wabash

Now, logic is HUGE thing for me, so let’s take a trip through my thought process on this one.

We first started hearing pushes for mandatory vaccines when the Whooping Cough came back. We were told even ONE un-vaccinated person puts hundreds, if not thousands, of people at risk for catching the virus. Now, however, it sounds like it might have been (in addition to the above-mentioned event, which was not dated) the vaccines themselves helping spread it among the population.

Doctors began vaccinating people against pertussis in the 1940s with a type of vaccine called a whole-cell vaccine, which was made of dead bacteria. This type of vaccine “can raise an immune response, but cannot cause the disease,” said the study’s lead researcher, Manoj Gambhir, an associate professor of epidemiology at Monash University in Melbourne, Australia…


But the whole-cell vaccine sometimes caused side effects, such as fevers, and in some severe cases, people developed fever-induced convulsions, Gambhir said.

In 1991, researchers developed a new, “acellular” vaccine that does not contain dead bacterial cells. This vaccine “contains far fewer components of the bacteria and, therefore, far fewer possible biochemical triggers for the adverse events,” Gambhir told Live Science.

Doctors began using the acellular vaccine in the U.S. during the 1990s, but it turned out to be less effective than the original vaccine: It prevents 80 percent of cases, compared with the 90 percent of cases that the whole-cell vaccine prevented, Gambhir said. This means that, of the people exposed to the disease, about 20 percent who received the acellular vaccine may still get sick, compared with just 10 percent of those who received the whole-cell vaccine.

–‘Whooping cough outbreaks traced to change in vaccine‘, Laura Geggel

Isn’t that unsettling? This came out in April 2015 – never heard about it? Why not? Isn’t this relevant information, especially if your child got a whooping cough vaccine, which you were told was the right thing to do?

I think it is. Informed Consent became a HUGE tenant of Medical Science, after the “Tuskegee Study of Untreated Syphilis in the Negro Male“, as it was Orwellianly-named. This is the incident which gave rise to a new interest in making the Hippocratic Oath a serious, mandatory tenant of the Medical Community.

To this day, recruits are given vaccines, the contents or reasons for which they are not allowed to know – which, as a soldier, I’ve had veterans tell me that’s what you sign up for. That same veteran in particular underwent a chisel-and-hammer procedure we later found out, on TV’s ‘Dr. Oz’, funnily enough, was barbaric – lasers had been the industry standard for the last five years, at least. I digress.

A whole generation of Psychologists are rebelling against the establishment’s guidelines and educational accreditation programs (built by pharmaceutical companies, funnily enough), which they say are not in the best interests of their patients.

Replies were received from 679 psychologists, for a return rate of 51%. Fourteen respondents reported that they were retired and 3 reported that they were not working as psychologists. There were 134 respondents who indicated that they had not encountered ethically troubling incidents in the past year or two, as the following examples illustrate.

–‘Ethical Dilemmas Encountered by Members of the American Psychological Association: A National Survey’; Kenneth S. Pope, Valerie A. Vetter [Emphasis added]

While most of these incidents are about confidentiality, you can add up all of the systemic problems for yourself (8% are school and training-related alone).

In addition, some even more troubling statistics are starting to pop up:

In the past several weeks, a number of controversial natural health doctors have died under mysterious circumstances. Some of them have even had recent encounters with federal agents and bureaucracies.

Two weeks ago, the string of mysterious deaths began when Dr. Jeff Bradstreet MD was found in a river with a gunshot wound to his chest…

Another death came on Fathers Day, June 21, when Dr. Bruce Hedendal DC Ph.D., of the Miami area, was found dead in his car with no explanation as to how it happened. As of right now, there are even fewer details about the circumstances surrounding Hedenal’s death as there are about the death of Bradstreet.

To make matters even more suspicious, both doctors have had run-ins with the feds due to their unconventional treatments, which had been known to help people…

Dr. Teresa Sievers, another natural health doctor from Florida, also died under mysterious circumstances earlier this week. According to Sievers’ website, she also specialized in holistic health treatments. She was allegedly murdered by an unknown attacker in an upscale neighborhood that experiences very little crime.

Each of these doctors were described as very healthy people with no major health problems, and no real reason for anyone to target them for murder, nor did they show any signs of depression.

–‘3 Alternative Health Doctors Found Dead In the Last 2 Weeks After Run-Ins With The Feds’; 

Bottom line is, this is not a “Whackjobs vs. Science” problem (no pun intended), this is a “Corruption in Power vs. Citizens’ Rights” issue. Who profits from all those vaccine sales?

Not the dead doctor who lead a class-action lawsuit against these people… which was paid out by the National Vaccine Injury Fund (now known as the “National Vaccine Injury Compensation Program”). Who pays for this fund protecting Private Business Interests

We do.

The Trust Fund is funded by a $0.75 excise tax on vaccines recommended by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention for routine administration to children. The excise tax is imposed on each dose (disease that is prevented) of a vaccine. Trivalent influenza vaccine for example, is taxed $0.75 because it prevents one disease;  measles-mumps-rubella vaccine, which prevents three diseases, is taxed $2.25.

–‘National Vaccine Injury Compensation Program‘, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Health Resources and Services Administration

…and you wonder why they want MMR to be mandatory – it pays triple, after all!!

Things are getting serious now; so, why am I not freaking out about it?

If THEY are freaking out about it, that must be because we’re figuring it out. They’re trying to silence the scientists, dismissing them as heretics while paying talking heads and scientifically-minded magazines to keep affirming (or at least insinuating) what more and more studies are disproving, and more and more journalists are finding discrediting.

What should you do?

Compare both sides, call your Senator in the morning.

(Fe/Male) Role Models

When I was growing up, I was a tomboy. I didn’t want to be a girl – except maybe Xena – I wanted to be Lestat, I wanted to be Stanley’s Alter Ego. I wanted to be Michael Jordan. I didn’t want to be Maxie. I mean, our shows are nothing alike. I digress. I would look at Helen Reddy in “Pete’s Dragon”, and I wanted to be Elliot instead. When I played pretend with a group of girls, I always volunteered to be the male. When I played pretend in a mixed gender group, I would only be the Pink Ranger.

Now, let’s look at these two female role models – Xena and Kimberly. They were gymnasts, martial artists, and physically attractive. They didn’t have to pick one over the other. They didn’t have to choose whether or not to be just strong, sexy, or flexible. They didn’t have to be the Archetypal Gaming Sorceress, only having points in a few skills. They were Capable.

More often than not, we see Capable Males – and they are clearly capable of – Saving a City, Saving the World, and Getting the Girl. People have hawed and hollered about this fact, demanding more substantial and leading roles for women, referring what is known as the Bechdel Test as the standard of female-friendliness:

  1. It has to have at least two [named] women in it
  2. Who talk to each other
  3. About something besides a man

I think we’ve been going about it all wrong. As Morgan Freeman says in his now ever-popular interview with Mike Wallace of 60 Minutes:

Ladies, don’t let a little thing like a penis stop you from looking up to someone, and don’t let it be a reason to look down on someone, either. Vice-versa, if you look up to Nelly Bly more than Anderson Cooper, so be it! I just happen to be talking to the Lady-Folk who, I believe, aren’t doing much besides making a hypocrite of themselves… and I find that to be a problem.

Yes, bemoaning a lack of chivalry then rudely shunning someone sincerely offering you help (not talking about the creepazoids) because they aren’t cute enough (you were saving the ‘damsel in distress’ act for the single new hottie a few doors down who you may have noticed comes home around a certain time every day) or you’re still pumped up from a night of man-bashing disguised as ‘Female Friendly’ doesn’t make you progressive, it makes you a terrible person who uses a person’s gender to justify your disrespect. Bigots can be bigoted about anything, from where someone is from to the car they drive.

We are HUMANS. If women act like gender doesn’t define a person, maybe if WE quit bringing it up as a dividing factor by painting men with the same wide brush as “we” claim “they” paint us with and call it progress (it isn’t – it’s a juvenile reaction to what we would colloquially refer to as “a troll” or “an asshole”, both of which are gender-neutral terms, if you’re not one of those Pro-Females who INSIST on putting ‘-ess’ at the end of every word*), maybe a person’s gender wouldn’t be such a big deal.

Playing up the gender divide does not a “Gender-Divide Go-Away-ing” make.

“But, He’s a he!” “But, She’s a she!” Hell, I’m for making gender-neutral terms the law of the land, but I’m also for not pushing my agenda on people who are unwilling. Something about “being influenced by Wicca”.

Wiccans don’t preach; Wiccans don’t evangelize. Everyone has to find his/ her own path, and we welcome the diversity this brings.

When it comes to Gender Inequality, instead of waiting for the same people in charge of keeping the status quo patriarchal to give us a bevy of female role models, let’s stop thinking about it as Women Role Models and Male Role Models. If you look up to someone, male or female, they’re a Role Model, they have some quality you wish to emulate; emulate it!

Whether it’s having confidence in yourself despite your past failings, making the impossible possible by redefining your life paradigm, or putting in the time necessary to achieve everything you Dream of Achieving, do it.

*Seriously, though, on a Vampire Freaks forum WAY back in the day, someone got up in arms about how all the “Ranks” on the site were masculine in nature and, therefore, they took it upon themselves to do what I just said – add “-ess” to the end of everything. There was a debate about how ‘Vampire’ is a gender-neutral term and, therefore, while Count and Countess was viable, “Vampiress” was just silly and unnecessary.

I’d like to take this to another level – what if we called everyone “Sir”? Or “Ma’am”? Gender wouldn’t be the first thing we’d have to judge in order to avoid risking offense. Maybe the Russians had the right idea with the whole “comerade” thing… “Comradess?” Doesn’t have the bite.

Don’t get me started on the whole “Goody” title.

Perhaps we need a whole new word instead of Sir/ Ma’am, as the dichotomy reeks of – well – dichotomy, which is already deeply imbeded in the subconscious minds of those around me. Especially in Government: We call Supreme Court Judges “Your Honor”, male or female (perhaps as a testament to the whole ‘justice is blind’ saying); however, we say “Mister” or “Madame” Speaker, Mr./ Mdme. President.

Some people aren’t interested at all – some women are willing to take the small injustices in order to keep enjoying what I refer to as “Protected Class Privileges”. Women are allowed to get away with bad behavior in a way men aren’t, in a social context. The WWYD episode should explain more:

“Female aggression is usually seen as not very important, not very deadly, nothing really to react to.”

Insert Double Standard Here.

I was once in a courtroom for a Domestic Violence situation and was asked to leave the room. They were asking the jurors, “If you thought you heard a slap from the neighbor’s house, what would you do?” One of the answers inflamed me: “Well, I don’t know, it might just be the woman hitting the man.”

This was said by a woman.

This is what I mean by “Female Privilege”. This privilege, of course, doesn’t apply to those who choose to outwardly (and convincingly) identify as male or “butch”. Sometimes your level of attractiveness enters into it, depending on the context, but that’s a whole ‘nother story…

An Allegory for Mental Health and/ or Society

Let’s say you get a cut and, just to be nice, I grab you a bandaid and some first aid spray. I wait for you to offer up your injury, and nothing happens.

“Let’s get this bandaid on there.”

“What’s the point? It’s just going to keep bleeding under there, anyway.”

“The point is to stop the bleeding eventually.”

“It’s all a cover-up, though. It’s still going to bleed – things aren’t all not- bleedy under there!”

“Yes, well, if you want the damn thing to heal without getting an infection and complicating things, you’ll wear it.”

“You’re not really healing anything. I mean, if I get another cut, I’ll bleed, so it’s not really helping, in the long run.”


“I mean, I was born covered in blood – why bother, you know?”

“Alright, it’s your choice. I just tried to help…”

“See, there you go, blaming the bleeder, like I could help the fact that I got a cut. You’re so unsympathetic to the victims of bloodloss. You’ve probably lost blood at some point in your life, or know someone who has…”

“Yeah, and I fixed it.”

“After you ‘fixed it’, did you bleed again?”



“From a completely different wound, ’cause that one healed, or else I knicked it after it scabbed up, but it wasn’t healed all the way, yet.”

“This one’s never gonna heal.” Lifts up shirt.

“Holy Fuck! That scab’s huge!”

“How’s this for a bandaid?”

“You need to go to the fucking hospital.”

“I need to go to work in the morning.”

When it’s all said and done, it’s your own choice.

Proof Peter Pan is a Sociopath

Whether or not you agree with the assessment, this article is a list of all the reasons why we should take a look at Neverneverland from a slightly different perspective.

Now, when I say ‘Neverneverland’, I mean ‘Collective Consciousness concept of Neverland’ – which, like the Bible, may, in some ways, be directly contradictory – the residence of an immortal youth who lives just about as far away as some of the quickest pass-bys of the Moon.

Idolizing tropes in a blind way can be very dangerous. There is a need to shed some light on Peter Pan’s behavioral problems, the same way some have already shed light on ‘Beauty and the Beast’ trivializing/ romanticizing Stockholm Syndrome:

Feminist scholars have long argued [‘Beauty and the Beast’] sends a terrible message to audiences (especially young girls) by basically showcasing an abusive and power-imbalanced relationship as some kind of ideal fairy-tale romance. (Movie Fone News)

…speaking of ‘ideal fairy-tale romance’…

Sociopathy is now known in the DSM-V as ‘Anti-Social Personality Disorder‘, and differs ever-so-slightly from Psychopathy, according to Psychology Today. However, they do share these characteristics:

  • A disregard for laws and social mores (1)
  • A disregard for the rights of others (2)
  • A failure to feel remorse or guilt (3)
  • A tendency to display violent behavior (4)

Keep these four in mind while reading the remainder of this article.


As feral of a man-child as Peter sometimes conducts himself, he is also quite the gentleman, so it seems:

Peter could be exceedingly polite also, having learned the grand manner at fairy ceremonies, and he rose and bowed to her beautifully. She was much pleased, and bowed beautifully to him from the bed (Barrie*, 32).


Peter, seeing this to be a good idea, at once pretended that it was his own. (Barrie, 87)

Even when he’s being a completely self-centered ass, everyone seems to adore Peter:

Alas, he had already forgotten that he owed his bliss to Wendy. He thought he had attached the shadow himself. “How clever I am!” he crowed rapturously, “oh, the cleverness of me!”

It is humiliating to have to confess that this conceit of Peter was one of his most fascinating qualities. To put it with brutal frankness, there never was a cockier boy. (Barrie, 34)

This motherfucker was trying to reattach his shadow (which, assuming we don’t suspend our disbelief, is pretty darn grandiose, if you think about it) with a bar of soap while crying like a bitch, just moments before. How does he make up for this?:

“Wendy,” he continued, in a voice that no woman has ever yet been able to resist, “Wendy, one girl is more use than twenty boys.”

Now Wendy was every inch a woman, though there were not very many inches, and she peeped out of the bed-clothes.

“Do you really think so, Peter?”

“Yes, I do.”

“I think it’s perfectly sweet of you,” she declared, “and I’ll get up again”…

–(Barrie, 35)

Yes, you read that right – he fixes it by telling her exactly what he knows she wants to hear, exactly the way he knows she wants to hear it! Oh, but Peter’s not done, yet – watch how he easily convinces Wendy being just-short-of-a-live-in-slave to a bunch of runaway juvenile delinquents is a wonderful idea:

He had become frightfully cunning. “Wendy,” he said, “how we should all respect you.”

She was wriggling her body in distress. It was quite as if she were trying to remain on the nursery floor.

But he had no pity for her.

“Wendy,” he said, the sly one, “you could tuck us in at night.”


“None of us has ever been tucked in at night.”

“Oo,” and her arms went out to him.

“And you could darn our clothes, and make pockets for us. None of us has any pockets.”

How could she resist…

–(Barrie, 43-44)

When Peter arrived at the  Darling’s nursery window, he had no interest in Wendy whatsoever – if anything, he wanted the stories – he just so happened to chase his shadow into the nursery that evening. When he realizes how useful having a girl around would be, the Sweet Nothings come a-tumblin’ out.

The sociopath is a predator and has the ability to read a person better than anyone[.] Despite his warm charismatic [exterior], behind this lies a cold calculating mind, not inhibited by emotions. The sociopath will do lots of things to assess you, and to decide what you are worth, and if what you have to offer is what he needs. To the sociopath, a victim/target  is no more than a tool to be used. (Dating a Sociopath‘ Official Website)


When a sociopath catches you in his sights, the first stage involves them finding out as much about you as humanly possible and mimicking your Perfect Mate. All the while, you’re being swept off your feet; still, things seem a little… off.

This scene from the first ‘Devil’s Carnival’ Movie Musical shows this type of human behavior in a much different light than the Disney conceptualization. (As it is a fable, it also comes with a moral: Lying To Yourself Is A Sin – Don’t fall into the Sociopath’s Spell of Gaslighting; Validate Yourself.)

A sociopath will mirror you, [w]hich means that he will reflect back to you, exactly who you are, or even who you think you are. (‘Dating a Sociopath’ Official Website)

Peter is SO good at doing those voices, don’tcha think? I mean, remember when he tricks his Nemesis’ First Mate into thinking the whole ship’s gonna get to go hog-wild on Hook’s Hooch Stash? Leaving Wendy to almost drown as he laughs – twice… the second time being after he almost forgets to save Tiger Lily from drowning.

Remember when he fit in so well with the Piccaninny Tribe (don’t get me started on that word) while allowing his “mother” to be used as a common serving wench? (Keeping her constantly having to protect her barely-not-a-toddler youngest brother from smoking a man’s dose of ‘Lord-Knows-What’ (probably tobacco) after worrying about flying tomahawks…)

…which, to be fair, you have to “be down” in Neverland. Victorian Nursery Babes are not really that into polyamory (or getting firewood while your faux-beau rubs noses with the lady of the hour); at least, not the ones who grow up to have husbands in the war and prudently decide to send their children to the countryside for safety.


What better way to feel important than by starting a society where you make up all the rules and everyone else has to do whatever you say, however long you say it for?

According to, here is a checklist of the characteristics of cults, along with some examples as to why Peter’s Gang could be considered more than just a group of youths trying to survive in the wilderness:

  • The group displays excessively zealous and unquestioning commitment to its leader and (whether he is alive or dead) regards his belief system, ideology, and practices as the Truth, as law.

Peter never quite knew what twins were, and his band were not allowed to know anything he did not know, so these two were always vague about themselves, and did their best to give satisfaction by keeping close together in an apologetic sort of way. (Barrie, 66)

  • ‪ Questioning, doubt, and dissent are discouraged or even punished.

It was not in their nature to question when Peter ordered. (Barrie, 77)

  • ‪ Mind-altering practices (such as meditation, chanting, speaking in tongues, denunciation sessions, and debilitating work routines) are used in excess and serve to suppress doubts about the group and its leader(s).

I don’t know what you’d call ‘flying after sprinkling magic dust on yourself’, but it’s probably an allegory for ‘being intoxicated’.

  • ‪ The leadership dictates, sometimes in great detail, how members should think, act, and feel (for example, members must get permission to date, change jobs, marry—or leaders prescribe what types of clothes to wear, where to live, whether or not to have children, how to discipline children, and so forth).

Speaking of Double Standards, while Peter is allowed to assimilate into any culture or group of siblings he so chooses, no one is allowed to look like him, on pain of death. Seriously, it’s in the book and everything:

They are forbidden by Peter to look in the least like him, and they wear the skins of bears slain by themselves, in which they are so round and furry that when they fall they roll. They have therefore become very sure-footed. (Barrie, 65)

Dictating language? Oh, yeah –

It was only in Peter’s absence that they could speak of mother’s, the subject being forbidden by him as silly. (Barrie, 70)‪

  • The group is elitist, claiming a special, exalted status for itself, its leader(s) and members (for example, the leader is considered the Messiah, a special being, an avatar—or the group and/or the leader is on a special mission to save humanity).

I believe we’ve already covered the ‘Chief Flying Eagle’ thing. Not so much Messianic as just being the type to heap titles on himself – such as ‘Captain’ – or accept from others, in order to solidify the validity of his position.

They called Peter the Great White Father, prostrating themselves before him; and he liked this tremendously, so that it was not really good for him. (Barrie, 122)

  • ‪ The group has a polarized us-versus-them mentality, which may cause conflict with the wider society.

You’re either a Sea Creature, a Beast, a Pirate, a Lost Boy, or an Indian, from what I can tell…

  • ‪ The leader is not accountable to any authorities (unlike, for example, teachers, military commanders or ministers, priests, monks, and rabbis of mainstream religious denominations).

What are you gonna do if you don’t like who Peter’s killing, go get Officer Astronaut to haul his punk ass to the Space Brig? No, I don’t think so. You’re going to have to deal with it until he gets bored and decides to either A) kill you, or B) grant a request because it fills the Narcissism Tank with ‘Grade A Grandiosity‘.

“Father knows best,” [Wendy] always said, whatever her private opinion must be. (Barrie, 123)

“Oh, by the way, who’s your Great White Father, Wendy? That’s right – Peter.”

“Peter,” she asked, trying to speak firmly, “what are your exact feelings to me?”

“Those of a devoted son, Wendy.”

“I thought so,” she said, and went and sat by herself at the extreme end of the room.

“You are so queer,” he said, frankly puzzled, “and Tiger Lily is just the same.

There is something she wants to be to me, but she says it is not my mother.”

“No, indeed, it is not,” Wendy replied with frightful emphasis.

–(Barrie, 129)

Of course, words mean something different to Peter than to everyone else – and of course, his definition is what goes around these parts. “Woman! Thimble me immediately!!”

  • ‪ The group teaches or implies that its supposedly exalted ends justify whatever means it deems necessary. This may result in members’ participating in behaviors or activities they would have considered reprehensible or unethical before joining the group (for example, lying to family or friends, or collecting money for bogus charities).

…did I mention the ‘killing as a bonding activity?’ No? Well, keep reading…

  • ‪ The leadership induces feelings of shame and/or guilt in order to influence and/or control members. Often, this is done through peer pressure and subtle forms of persuasion.

[Narcissistic victims] are frequently rather nervous, with a guilt-ridden, anxious look and effect. They may appear restless, worried, and/or demonstrate a fake laugh that seems to hide something else. (‘Sign of the Times‘ Official Website)

Narcissistic Victim Syndrome is the common term for ‘What happens when you are processing the mental/ emotional/ physical stress from putting up with a Sociopath.’ ::insert gif here::


[The Twins] did their best to give satisfaction by keeping close together in an apologetic sort of way. (Barrie, 66)

  • A‪ Subservience to the leader or group requires members to cut ties with family and friends, and radically alter the personal goals and activities they had before joining the group.

What did disturb her at times was that John remembered his parents vaguely only, as people he had once known, while Michael was quite willing to believe that she was really his mother. These things scared her a little… (Barrie, 94-95)

Now your life’s goal is ‘Never Grow Up’.

The difference between him and the other boys at such a time was that they knew it was make-believe, while to him make-believe and true were exactly the same thing. This sometimes troubled them, as when they had to make-believe that they had had their dinners.

If they broke down in their make-believe he rapped them on the knuckles. (Barrie, 85)

  • ‪ The group is preoccupied with bringing in new members.

After all, turnover happens quite whimsically…

  • ‪ Members are expected to devote inordinate amounts of time to the group and group-related activities.

Adventures, of course, as we shall see, were of daily occurrence; but about this time Peter invented, with Wendy’s help, a new game that fascinated him enormously, until he suddenly had no more interest in it, which, as you have been told, was what always happened with his games… For several suns these were the most novel of all adventures to him; and John and Michael had to pretend to be delighted also; otherwise he would have treated them severely. (Barrie, 96)

  • ‪ Members are encouraged or required to live and/or socialize only with other group members.

In his absence… when pirates and lost boys meet they merely bite their thumbs at each other. But with the coming of Peter, who hates lethargy, they are all under way again… (Barrie, 64)

This just goes to show the Pirates have no particular ill-will towards the Lost Boys, in general, beyond an East Coast ‘Hello’. It reminds me of a movie I saw once of the Americans and Germans passing each other, but since there was no battle, they passed peacefully.

  • ‪ The most loyal members (the “true believers”) feel there can be no life outside the context of the group. They believe there is no other way to be, and often fear reprisals to themselves or others if they leave (or even consider leaving) the group.

If you leave ‘The Lost Boys’, you’d better be planning to become a Pirate (and hope they don’t kill you, first) or trying to get the fuck back to where-ever part of the globe he happened to snatch you away from as a child. Since he’s the one who holds the fairy under his thumb, and thus controls access to transportation off of the island, I don’t think that second one is very likely.

The boys on the island vary, of course, in numbers, according as they get killed and so on; and when they seem to be growing up, which is against the rules, Peter thins them out; but at this time there were six of them… (Barrie, 65)


Once you get to be a certain age, you’re dead. It’s kind of like that one episode of Stargate with the balding 25-year-old. That age – the age of 12 – pretty much happens to be ‘The Age of Reason’. See, when someone sees through your bullshit (and sociopaths’ lungs happen to run on lies more than oxygen – true story I just made up), you turn everyone against them, and ruin them.

Or, let’s say, you try to kill the girl Peter convinced to take care of him and the boys:

“Listen, Tinker Bell,” he cried, “I am your friend no more. Begone from me forever.” (Barrie, 82)

Or say you want to go home:

Their first thought was that if Peter was not going he had probably changed his mind about letting them go.

But he was far too proud for that. “If you find your mothers,” he said darkly, “I hope you will like them.”

The awful cynicism of this made an uncomfortable impression, and most of them began to look rather doubtful. After all, their faces said, were they not noodles to want to go? (Barrie, 142)


If you don’t believe Neverneverland was a disease-induced hallucination of the Summerland, then, at best, we have a mentally-ill young boy who has magical powers (we infer, because sociopaths have no soul, he sold it to the FUCKING Prince of Hell in exchange for them, which is why he’s constantly cruising for innocent souls) and uses them to manipulate young children into living in tribal conditions on the fringes of society.

Breaking and Entering

It was in this casual way that Wendy one morning made a disquieting revelation. Some leaves of a tree had been found on the nursery floor, which certainly were not there when the children went to bed, and Mrs. Darling was puzzling over them when Wendy said with a tolerant smile:

“I do believe it is that Peter again!”

“Whatever do you mean, Wendy?”

“It’s so naughty of him not to wipe,” Wendy said, sighing. She was a tidy child. (Barrie, 13)


Bodily Dismemberment

Not only did Peter cut off Hook’s “arm” (Barrie, 73), as the Captain puts it, but fed it to an aquatically-inclined animal which follows Hook around on his floating house, wanting to chew that mother fucker up and shit him out. The guy has to smoke two cigars at a time just to keep from being eaten up by anxiety at all times.

Emotional Rights Violations

Wendy’s daughter, Jane, is confused by this boy’s cocky attitude, even more confused by the homicidal fairy following him everywhere and committing assault routinely. Confidently, smiling, he enlightens her:

“Aw, she’s just jealous – all girls get like that around me.” 
–Peter Pan, ‘Disney’s Return to Neverland’

Not only is Peter bragging about the fact that he causes widespread emotional distress to the heterosexual cisgendered females, he also implies his expectation of Jane’s conformity with such a dynamic – the implication, of course, being to question her femininity.


At the beginning of the second movie, Peter steals Hook’s Treasure, because he’s bored. In order to survive, one needs currency (assuming Jas. Hook participates in commerce); however, once again, Hook is seen as the villain for wanting his own shit back.

Recklessness/ Impulsivity

Knowing how long it took everyone to get the hang of flying, (answer: long enough for Peter to forget who they were multiple times) Peter decides to try a sink-or-swim activity that will be perfect for solidifying loyalties:

[Peter’s] courage was almost appalling. “Would you like an adventure now,” he said casually to John, “or would you like to have your tea first?”

Wendy said “tea first” quickly, and Michael pressed her hand in gratitude, but the braver John hesitated.

“What kind of adventure?” he asked cautiously.

“There’s a pirate asleep in the pampas just beneath us,” Peter told him. “If you like, we’ll go down and kill him.”

“I don’t see him,” John said after a long pause.

“I do.”

“Suppose,” John said, a little huskily, “he were to wake up.”

Peter spoke indignantly. “You don’t think I would kill him while he was sleeping! I would wake him first, and then kill him. That’s the way I always do.” (Barrie, 57)

Yep – isn’t plotting the murder of a sleeping man a grand way to get to know one another? To intimidate the new recruits into keeping in-line? …why am I suddenly having flashbacks of Salò?


Another sign of a Sociopath is the ‘Predatory Gaze’ –

He came back, and there was a greedy look in his eyes now which ought to have alarmed her, but did not.

“Oh, the stories I could tell to the boys!” she cried, and then Peter gripped her and began to draw her toward the window.

“Let me go!” she ordered him. (Barrie, 42)

Yes, because when Peter Pan wants you to jump out a window in the middle of the night, you jump out the fucking window, without question, and with a smile on your face.


Speaking of smiles, that’s the Endgame – it’s all for shits and giggles, at the end of the day.


Don’t mess with him, man.

*denotes the PDF file ‘1904 Peter Pan

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